Most children have lost the respect and the admiration they once had for their parents and they are not entirely to blame for this. Parents have failed in their responsibilities and their role in the upbringing of their children. Like in the case of disciplining their children, they have left this to fate. I am one person who believes that when you spare the rod you spoil the child, but for this to be administered correctly there is need to have parenting skills.
Good parenting involves include not argue or fight with your partner in the full glare of your children. Also do not confront your partner in the presence of children, relatives or any other person. Wait until when you are only the two of you and talk about what is bothering you. This will make the children respect you both.
Regardless of how busy you are; good parenting is making time for your children. Have heart to heart talks with them. Create an atmosphere where your children feel free to consult from you anything that involves their personal life. The internet has get information on good parenting skills so make use of it. Attend your children’s school events instead of sending your driver or house help. Be fully involved in every phase of your children growth. If you have a girl, daddy should take her out on a ‘date’. This makes girls extremely confident even when they become adults and if you are a single mother get a man you truly trust to be a father figure to your kids.
Instead of spending all your free time with the boys having beer, watching football and discussing politics, or with the girlfriends sharing drinks, talking about fashion, be home and help your kids with their homework. Proper parenting is about commitment and focus in the welfare of your spouse and children.
Parents should never give bribes openly in the presence of their young ones or giving them alcohol or cigarettes. If possible keep away from these negative habits and be a good role model to your children. Let them know that these habits are detrimental to their personal life, thus when they grow up they will make good life choices.
Ways To Be A Positive Role Model For Children: By Lizzie Ducking- Role models for Children are not always members of their own family, it can be someone outside of the family and most of the time it is someone else. A role model is someone that a Child will look up to and admire.
There is an old saying that says it takes a village to raise a Child. Everyone should be involved in nurturing a Child and there are things that we can do that could make a lasting impression on him.
Here are five things that we can do as a role model but I am certain that there are other things as well.
1. Teach them respect: Respect is two folds, we have to respect ourselves and we have to respect others. Therefore, the first thing would be to teach a Child to respect himself. When he learns to respect himself, he would most likely respect others. Teach him that respect is not a sign of weakness. Let him know that respecting others will gain favor him. It is far better to be nice to someone rather than being disrespectful to him.
Children do not always realize that their behavior is disrespectful so it is up to us to tell them the error of their ways. In the end, they will appreciate us for our guidance.
2. Spend quality time with them: Sometimes Parents will need to work and is not able to spend a lot of time with their Children but if we have the time, we should spend it with them. When they visit just spend some time with them asking them about their day, how are they feeling, how are they doing in school and if they are having any problems. If they tell us that there is a problem, assure them that we would try to help them and then do it. It maybe that we are the only one they can confide is so we should not let them down.
Playing sports with them or taking them to games is a big deal for them or pay their way to a game. Children do not forget much so they will remember the nice things we have done for them.
3. Listen to them: Children will keep things bottled up inside of them but if we gain their trust, they will begin to talk to us. When they do we should listen to what they have to say and not scold them even if they are wrong. We can point out their mistake in a loving and caring manner and they will appreciate it, might even listen to us and do better.
It is important to listen to them because there may be something seriously wrong and need our attention which could prevent harm to them.
4. Behave ourselves politely in public: We should practice what we preach. It is a total defeat if we tell them to be nice and they see us acting mean in public. This can scar them because they would have seen us doing what we have told them not to do. The result will be disrespect towards us and probably will be called a Hypocrite so we should be very careful about how we carry or behave ourselves in public. What if someone else sees us misbehaving in public and tells the Child and he confronts us about it. The best thing to do is to own up to our behavior, apologize for it and hope he will forgive us and continue to trust us.
5. Display core values such as love, honest, caring and justice in from of Children: Love draws others to us but hate will drive them away and Children know where love is. They are simple so they look for simple things and when they have found it, they would hang around it.
Teach them to be honest and not to lie. Let them know that lying can cause serious consequences and that the truth is always best. They are not good liars anyway so it will be easy to figure them out and if we do, we should let them know that we know they are lying but it should be done in love because this is the time that they need our love the most.
Show that we care about them. It is not enough to tell them that we care about them, it need to be shown because what is shown to them makes a more impact than what is said, so in every possible way we should show them that we care about them. It does not have to be anything grand just simple everyday things will let them know we care.
Show justice to them, being fair and impartial is a must especially when there is more than one Child around. Equally divide what we have among them so no one will feel unimportant. Teach them to be fair to others and not to cheat anyone because they can get into trouble cheating.
We may not purposely set out to be a role model to Children but if we will do these things we would most likely become one.
Children need positive role models. Unfortunately, many of them look to entertainers to fill that role. How many times have you heard an entertainer say they don’t want to be a positive influence? They might not want the job, but they have it anyway.
Do you want your child emulating an entertainer that doesn’t even care about them? No, probably not. That’s why it’s important for you to be the influence your child needs.
The world is a lot different now than it was 10 or even 5 years ago. Children are exposed to more violence and sexual activity than ever before. It’s everywhere – in songs, on television, and in the movies. Positive role models can help children avoid being overly influenced by negativity in the media.
Good role models help children develop high self-esteem. Instead of making a child feel inferior because they don’t look a certain way, they encourage them to appreciate their appearance. Good role models don’t make teens feel inferior because they weigh more than a super model. Most importantly, they teach children to care about more than looks and superficial things.
Children that have negative role models are more likely to struggle in life. They’re more likely to struggle academically, drop out of school, commit crimes or end up in jail. Without anyone to influence them in a positive way, it’s harder to develop into a well-rounded adult. It can be done, but it will be difficult.
Are you a good influence for your child? How do you behave when your child is around? If anything you’re doing has a negative effect on your child, then you’re not a good role model. Getting drunk, being verbally or physically abusive or beating on a spouse sets a terrible example.
Become a positive influence on a child starting right now. If you need professional help, go out and get it. Make an effort to be the role model your child needs.